what does your friend want, Bobert? let her know -

to be spoken to with courtesy, as I'm sure you..r friend speaks to his woman.

to be treated with respect.

if your friend's gal likes giving orders - tell her to join the army.

anti female? nup, its just that Ive been on the receiving end of the orders, and its a pain. democracy starts in the house. the personal is political. all two people need to make it work are interestd in common, similar intellect, and courtesy.

neither has the right to assume the mantle of Colonel.