I am sorry to hear of this, Hesperis. Usually when something like this happens, though, in my experience, it's always for the highest good of all concerned and like Sins said, better to find out now, than later.

We're here, if there is anything we can do, listen, etc. If ya need to holler, wallow, rant and rave, feel free...we'll give you lots of {{{{{HUGS}}}}}} and wish you well.

luvyakat