Openmike, I'm sorry that my posting right after yours seemed to ignore you. It wasn't there when I started to write my message or I would have responded to you rather than continuing my silly banter with Beardedbruce.

I really feel for you. I've been in your position, and the only difference was that I was married to the creep.

Men lie because they think they can get away with it (yes, big generalization and if it doesn't fit you, then it's not aimed at you) and will continue doing it unless you make it clear what they've done is unacceptable.

The best way to tell them? Walk out.

Sometimes they'll learn, but it's the hard way. If this guy really cares about you, he'll make amends and immediately cut off his relationship with the other woman.

If you choose to forgive him down the road, that's your call. I did, and in the end he really did change. But would I bet on that happening in 9 cases out of 10? Nope.

Just take care of yourself, hon. You deserve better treatment.

..xx..e