LF,

Before following anyone's well-meant advice, consult a lawyer who's been around the block in family law. I would think that documenting things now would cast you in the light of a sore loser with an agenda, and the result may be V ending up in foster care where you can't have any contact at all. Please take time to grieve, think, consult, and consider long-term ramifications before you take action. There are a lot of angles to this....

~Susan