well, Ebbie, I could introduce you to several counter examples to what you 'believe', but I suppose you would just counter that they MUST have been "grievously wounded", or they wouldn't be like that.

If one were to lay out the argument, it would follow a form of logical fallacy known as affirming the consequent

(Note that this does not prove the assertion incorrect, it only shows whether one has a 'valid' argument.)

Sue B...makes MY point in her post. People often differ no matter what seems to be very similar environmental circumstances.

Now it IS true that stress and problems can make things worse--Hitler and Stalin both had childhoods that pushed them over the line and contributed to their later hate and excesses, but since we can't do the experiment about how Hitler would have grown up if his father had NOT been so domineering, we must examine a LOT of cases and not just 'believe' X because if feels better.