The focus HAS been about what she could do in the future.

Interference? Why post on an open forum then?

Anyone who professes to know how to care for someone elses damaged child WITHOUT support and professional training is a liability.

There is a very slim chance that the birth mother has sought help and counselling,in an effort to improve her parenting skills, and was too embarrassed to phone and ask for help herself. I do not think it was right for her son to do the calling, but can understand why she avoided it.

On the otherhand maybe she couldn't be bothered? Let's hope the new school will eventually recognise her problems and direct her to the many skilled bodies that exist to pick up the pieces.