thanks open mike for your response. i am going to investigate your suggestions and susan's.                        

    (the words "i wonder" got elided from the beginning of my first message.)                                                

susan no doubt it was i playing with you at the getaway. there was an excellent woman fiddler who knew all the tunes and was "right there" and that must have been you. we were trying to play for a dance. it was a yeatsian moment - o swelling chestnut tree, o brightening glance - how can we tell the dancers from the dance? in this case, by their absense. no one came.

more later after i explore some of the leads.