Thus the first stated aim of the school my daughter attends is to turn out good Catholics.

This is not an attack on this particular faith but is there such a thing? From the experience of knowing a number of my friends who did attend - these schools do seem to produce guilt-ridden ones. Is that not more their main aim?

Two of these friends I remember well, were most concerned when a new priest came to their area and was making a point of contacting and visiting all the (lapsed) possible members of his congregation. As neither of them were activly religeous or attended church for many years - I could not really understand why these men, now in their 30s, were as concerned as they both obviously were about a possible visit from this priest and how to deal with it.