sue exhull - From reading your posts, I'd say Katie is very lucky to have you as a mother. Learning disabled children are not always a tremendous disappointment but they are a lot of work. I think a good parent will always try to give their child the most opportunities in life. Its not easy to push and pull but who knows their child better? Who is in a better to make those decisions than the person who has to live with the results? Thats why kids have parent.