WYSIWYG " This is the time when it's most tempting to give in to any co-dependency you may harbor, and be their pals. But it's not a good thing, for them or for you " I think you could be right there. My daughter pushes really hard against any barriers I think I've put up, and this could be due to the fact that I have become her 'friend',
but what happens if I'm seen as the rule making/tough 'parent' and unapproachable when she has a problem? I allow smoking (but not in the house) because she'll do it anyway but sneaking and lieing about it. She won't get up in the mornings for school and I have to go to work and can't be there to get her out of the house. The school say I have to praise the positive and they'll deal with everything else! Oh yeah, how can they, when she chooses not to be there? This is UK by the way. She can be a little darling at times, and other parents (of boyfriends) say what a lovely girl she is. I know that means I've got it right if she can be pleasent away from home, but I could do with a bit of that.

Anyway that's only part of the problem. She is just sounding like a normal teenager to me even!

How can I get her to do as she's told?