A parrable:
A dear friend of mine once proved to me that my wearing of a blue dressing gown could drive him to killing himself.
(He was feeling defensive about a habit of his, but that's beside the point).
The agument ended with him saying miserably, "And it just might be that my mother was wearing a blue dressing gown the last time I saw her and now she's dead!"
Me, "Was she wearing a blue dressing gown last time you saw her?" DF, "No, but she MIGHT have been!"

His mother had recently died, and he hadn't got to say goodbye. She'd died in his home country a long way away.
My friend's pain, anger and grief were real and understandable but the logic button was stuck in the off position. False connections and stuck logic buttons can be a terrible combination, I reckon. Cheers, Joy