Not sure that misunderstood. I carefully read all of these posts on this thread and others.

We appear to be products of the same time span and have supported many of the same causes during this period. I am not black nor am I female or gay. Because of this - the motives of everything I and others like me, may say can be questioned by those who are, or those who assume to speak for folk who are. I suggest however, that the main questioning of people like me and our motives - is done by ourselves.

After many years of such external and internal questioning, much development and adjustment - I can now say with as much certainty as I can - that I am not racist, sexist or homophobic - either overtly or otherwise. I do not have a problem coming to terms with the race, gender or sexual preferences of others - no matter how determined some folk are to convince me otherwise.

However and sadly, I am coming to think that many black people, females and gays (or more often those that assume to speak for them) possible do have a problem in coming to terms with these issues. That they sometimes seem determined to ensure that everyone else will also be racist, sexist, homophobic etc and approach almost every issue from their particular standpoint first and expect everyone else to also do this. And assume that everyone is already approaching every issue from a similar entrenched position - when many are actually making every possible effort not to.

Whilst always appreciating that minorities still do suffer badly at the hands of a majority (even when this is not intentional) and there may be positive actions that can be taken by all sides to minimise this - it is not possible to change one's race, gender etc - even if it were thought a good idea to do so.   

If it is thought a good thing to be proud of one's race, gender etc then it must be good for all of us to be allowed to do this. Where the active promotion of this pride looks to conflict with another's - there is little point in one side thinking that their demands may have more justification - just because it may be the minority view or indeed if it is the majority one.

Demanding acceptance, without obtaining knowledge and making any real attempt at understanding another's views - is unlikely to result in this.