Jeanie, I was with you until this line:

For an enduring relationship, a truly bright woman will be bright enough to let the man feel that he is brighter, but never let on what she is doing

Maybe those bright women who scare the bejeezuz out of men aren't willing to hide their light under a bushel basket just to let a guy think he's brighter just for the sake of having a relationship. It's dishonest, and I would think a hard act to keep up. If I were taller than the guy I would consider wearing flats (not a tough choice since the foot surgery!), but no way would I dumb down my personality so he can feel brighter. He's probably scared off by now, anyway. . .

SRS