Well, the problem a lot of folks here are having is not understanding the game of marriage. It has different goals, different rules, and different moves, freedoms and boundaries, than the game of living as a single self. When yu try to run amarriage on the rules of the single self sort of game, ito f course sooner or later falls apart.

The same thing would happen if you tried to play chess on a Monopoly board. Not only would you mess up the game but you would lose all the greatest pleasures of both games by mixing yourself up so badly.

You can get into marrying while you are still trying to figure out the basic rules of play for the Self game and find that neither game works very well. IN the confusion you can also leap to the conclusion that you are messed up and that marriage is a messed up business. Neither being really the case except in opinion.

As for playing a game that you really--after taking everything into account-- do not want to play, that doesn't make too much sense, does it?

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