OK, the nicest guy I know is happily married to a very bright lady, and he is very proud of her achievements. He also likes to dance. He is one in a million. I have a hard time believing he's straight.

Women are carefully trained, at least many of us are, to stroke the male ego, to make him feel like he's smarter and more capable than he is.

I don't do make a habit of that. My mom used to sing a song called, "How To Lose Your Man". In it the woman tells about letting a man know she knows as much or more than he does, and losing him.

The man I'm sort of involved with now, likes to debate. Of course if I'm winning he'll change the subject.