You may all be being a little unfair on "Regular Catter's" ex-other half. He may have started this in all innocence, not with the intention of hurting anyone, and found it grew way past what he expected.

I feel for you Regular Catter, and I don't mean to sound as though I don't, but sometimes these things happen without our volition and when they do, there isn't a lot that can be done about it....we can't prevent our feelings after all. You must have had good times over the last three years though...remember that and the time hasn't been wasted. When you meet and fall for someone else, you'll be so glad you didn't stay with this one

Love Lynne