When I first met Joy I was still trying to help a former girlfriend by phone. She encouraged and trusted me. But I guess being open was a bit of a clue to my motivation.

There you have it - honesty. Nothing to hide. But it goes both ways - or fails if it doesn't.

I would recommend something to fill the mindspace now created - the void left behind. For some it is another (or series of) SO, for some it is a change of hairstyle/wardrobe, for some it is songwriting. AND a combination of such crowds-out the nostalgia/loss.

Have you tried Mudchat?