Well I've been married so long this issue is totally beyond my consideration! But I must say, now that I brought this up ... a woman I knew well, liked and worked with, one day asked me, while we were out to lunch, if I minded if she smoked - I told her I didn't mind if she smoked, but I minded that she smoked! She took my comment in the light it was meant to be taken, a mildly humorous yet pointed remark. Her smoke didn't bother me, but I was a bit disappointed (for her sake) that she was a smoker.