I think, and am not positive, that part of the tragedy is that the Catholic Church has not/will not allow the husband to divorce or get an annullment and remarry in the church..but again, I am not sure. If they will not, in these circumstances, it is cruel and leads to situations like these. If they have said, in cases like this, where someone obviously cannot function as a husband or wife, of course you can get an annullment as long as he/she isi provided for..then, I am wrong. He needs to get an annulment, marry the other woman, and leave the decisions to others who stand by to take over. mg