Seems to me that a lack of courtesy usually comes from an aggressive nature and that springs, quite often, from anger that has been internalised.

So many people are unable to monitor their own behaviour, to stop and ask "why do I react in that way to that stimulus?". It's easier to put the blame on the other person, or to think that success requires one to stomp all over everyone else to reach a material goal. I like to think that the great majority of Mudcatters have got past that imperative, being intelligent enough to look at what makes them tick and to have learned from long experience what REALLY makes for happiness.

Those of us in that position should maybe feel sympathy for folks who are still struggling to reach a point of real happiness and try to do what we can to help them to get there. For some it is probably an impossibility - I know of a number of poor souls who operate purely on a surface level - maybe too scared to probe any deeper, and that seems to me to be a waste of a life. All I can say is that I'm glad I got past that sort of thinking.