I am so sorry for your loss, Sabine. I lost my younger sister last year to a horrible desease called Crones. From the time she was 25, she walked around with a colostomy(sp) bag on her hip. She was 45 when she finally left us. She was so tired. I miss her.

I'm 60 yrs old and I often wonder what I could do to make my passing easier on my two children. We've had our moments of love, and our moments of anger. I want them to remember and feel the love, and realize that the anger was quickly forgotten and long time forgiven.

I could write a letter, or make a cd (actually easier) to tell them my thoughts and feelings. I raised them to be awfully independent and now they are too independent and, though they love me, they make up their own minds about their lives. I guess I'll be like Nike. Just do it!

My daughter doesn't realize how much she will miss me. We talk almost every day. My son, though we don't talk as much, loves me very much and always just expects me to be there. It's going to be hard for them. They will wish they had said "some such thing" before I was gone and now "they never will".

When we lose a loved one I guess there are regrets sometimes. Mostly I just want them to be kind to their children and try not to make the mistakes I made with them. Above anything else, and I think this is what every parent wants for their children, all I want is for them to be happy.

You will miss your Mom, Sabine, and probably will have some regrets over what you said, or didn't say, or did or didn't do. Just remember, she loved you and just wanted you to be happy.

Love and light to you,
Annamill