Michael K when I got my long hair cut quite short my 18 month old son, who was in the hair dresser's, kept backing away from me. I put my hat on and then he was happier. It was a surprise when he was five to hear him tell me he missed my long hair. I've been growing it out and now its a little past shoulder length and he likes playing with it. I've dated men with beards and men without. I find them neither off-putting nor deadly attractive. Mostly it depends on whether the man is comfortable with himself. Three day stubble is uncomfortable to rub up against.