I have shared open stages with some very accomplished performers and writers and singers--and with some who were just starting out. I have learned something about performing and writing and singing from every single one of those folks. I've seen great people on bad nights and so-so people on great nights. I hope I have always said something positive to all of them. I tried to do that, because the pat on the back may not come from the audience, but that is no reason it couldn't come from me.

Keep in mind that a pat on the back is only six inches higher than a kick in the ass. For all of us.