Here's free advice. You can take it or leave it.

If your Santee is stingy with clues, but you want to be generous with gifts, anyway:

Click on the blickie of his or her name, and it will pull up an archive of everything they've ever posted here. Read a few entries, and that should give you a good idea about the kind of person you're dealing with. That's what I did, with my very first Santee...