Shy Person, I am really sorry your Getaways have felt that way. I was truly a first time outsider, but am not shy myself except when it comes to singing in public, so it was probably easier. Music itself can communicate when words to strangers are difficult.
What sort of music do you like? Do you sing, play, listen, or a combination?
I plan to come next year, and will be in DC area from time to time because I have a brother there. Please PM me. Maybe we can get to know one another a bit and next Getaway will each already know someone!