"So...can a song written by a woman be taken on face-value and its merits as a song rather than having the label'woman's song' applied?"

I think all songs have to be taken at face value, regardless of who wrote them.

"I await the indifference . . . ."

This is pretty damned insulting.

If you write songs to get a 'reaction', you'll get just that: a reaction. And, are you any good as a writer?