In my opinion, bodhran players aren't any worse than other musicians, but they are a bit louder. If you don't want to insult or hurt anyone, wait a bit, and the topic will be brought up in a discussion.(I assume you have them every once in a while.) That would be a good time to let everybody know that sometimes, less is more. Then it doesn't have to be directed at any particular person or instrument.

Magpie