Moonchild, I truly understand your concerns. To create a thread on being civil and respectful to others shows how much you care. And the responses posted show how much everyone else really cares about each other.
Sometimes I post something only to realize later how it may have hurt someone else's feelings. Then I feel terrible. I learn from that and become more aware and sensitive to this fact the next time I post.
I'm quite sure others are learning from their postings.
Bottom line, Mudcatters are a kind, loving bunch.
Bonnie