My ex is married to a collegue in her profession, lives in VT, happily, I guess. We are still friends, and what happened between us was no one's fault, we just didn't "hitch horses" as a married couple.
I kinda wish I had someone to blame
The fact is, when we look into a mirror, we see two people. Our best friend, and our worst enemy. I don't care who you are, all mirrors are made of the same stuff, and you see them too.