I found out over 20 years later from a friend who'd run into him somewhere that the feller who "missed out on too much" by marrying me (I was younger & missed more) left the Army a couple of months after we split, immediately plunged deeply into debt (one of the things I tried to keep "us" from doing), went for a masters degree in counseling (this yahoo refused to go to marriage counseling with me), got married soon (he said he didn't want to be married ever again-it tied him down too much), became a bar hopping non recovering alcolholic & went into the profession of chemical dependency counseling. Oh, yeah, and this same feller whom I met in church and was a chaplain's assistant in the army & wanted to study for the ministry--never went to church again.