There were already nine posts advising getting professional help before Martin suggested it.

What Martin sees as pity I see as compassion, a totally different animal.

Unfortunately Martin has the ability to sneer in print and I know that puts up the backs of a number of Mudcatters. I have got to feeling sad that he has to be so confrontational and to effectively enable a serious post to be partially hijacked. I can't really say whether this is his intention but it is tedious to see it happen again and again.

I know from my own experience that it helped to know that I was not alone and that other people had not only been through similar experiences but were willing to give what support they could to me. It helped me to see that there were good people out there and that there was somewhere I could go to just talk about the situation in between therapy sessions.

Good luck friend, I hope that, with help, you come out the other side into the sunshine