It's not that pathetic to come to a site like this initially, if only because therapy and counselling are so disparaged in our society that people are socially discouraged from pursuing those paths.

Equally, depression is positively fostered in a stiff-upper-lip society, insofar as depression is about self-repression of feelings, anger and the like. Attitudes like, "Just get on with life" lead in the same direction.

I write as a therapist but when i originally posted for GUEST I'd rather not say, i mostly suggested seeking professional advice.

I feel the need to add this little bit because attitudes common in our society both foster such conditions as depression and simultaneously put sufferers off helpful ways forward, putting them in an impossible position.

One of the greatest discoveries i made when i began my therapy course was the number of times, when someone began to talk of their problem, someone else responded in terms of,"Blimey, I'm NOT ALONE".