Paul, regardless of whether they are spiritually aware or not, so many of the experiences that people have shared in this thread demonstrate that people cared for {meaning loved, and still love} and tried to provide emotional support {and other types of support} to another person who took his or her life anyway.

People may respond to another person's cries for help, but the person crying may not respond to others' offers of help. Or {and this may be even more difficult}the person who succeeds in committing suicide may not have even presented to those close to him or her {or to the rest of the world} that he or she was that depressed or was even any more depressed than folks who do not try to or who do not succeed in committing suicide}.

To call people who are left behind selfish and self-asborbed because they {we} admit our pain, is to add to our pain.

I repeat what I've said before here-it's my hope that threads like this and Mudcat's "Depression/Anxiety" thread whose link I posted in my pain or others' pain.