Hi Mouse

I hope that, once you've hung around the 'Cat as a Guest for a while, you will join.

There are a lot of really good people here and I've met quite a lot of them in the flesh, which has only confirmed my thoughts about them from their posts. The majority of the people here ARE tolerant and friendly but it is difficult for some people to remain so when subject to the sort of abuse that comes from a few posters. My husband calls it 'testosterone poisoning'.

I've found, for myself, that just ignoring and not responding to that type of post suits me. Now I just scroll past certain posters because I know that they have nothing sensible or useful to add to a discussion. I think that an opposing view, put forward without abuse or ridicule, can quite often make me look at my own standpoint and either reinforce my own view or maybe rethink my position on an issue. That's what discussion is about and why I like this site so much.

Good luck for the future friend.