Thanks, all; I've already talked hospice, and he seems to think it a good idea. We now have some data - Stage IV, he's out of the hospital now that they've located all the tumors (turns out he does have one on each adrenal) and there is nothing to be done about any of them, median survical with chemo is 5-15 months. I don't know the 1- and 5-year survival percentages but we should have a year or so, which I find merciful, compared to the way my dad died.
Thanks for the stories.
I am thinking of the song Warren Zevon wrote when he was dying of lung cancer about Shadows falling and running out of breath. Will look for those lyrics.
-Mrr