WYSIWYG (man, I can never spell that) I agree that people shouldn't bail out every time they're the least bit discontented, but this doesn't sound like a "least bit" situation--it sounds like there's been quite a bit of infighting. As I said earlier, I obviously am not in on what is going on with the band, and I cannot tell to what extent nosluap57 is involved (is this an occupation or a serious pasttime? i.e. does his livelihood depend on it?). If he needs it to pay the bills, he's probably better advised to hang in there until something else--musical or otherwise--comes up so he doesn't end up homeless.

If he's doing this out of love of music, it clearly isn't working out and why make yourself miserable trying to do something you love with people who are not headed in the same direction? That doesn't make him a quitter, that just means that he and his bandmates wanted to expend their talent and energy on different things, and he might be better served finding a different group of people with more compatible schedules and goals.

I left the music club because it got to the point where I was starting to hate all things dulcimer, not because I was too lazy to do anything about it (I was the music director and class coordinator, which was a job from Hell, and sometimes ended up teaching three out of four classes myself because everyone else wanted to be led around by the nose by our local celebrity musicians). I play more now than I did then and like it a lot better. I don't play with as many people but we have a better time and are more willing to learn new stuff. I didn't lose a thing.