noslu, spend your energies finding some new folks to play with. It would be another story if you could hash things out and work through rough spots with the auld group. But if simple attempts to talk and compromise (you are willing to compromise, aren't you?) just result in repeated nasty snits, then there's nothing you can do. Very few bands last past a few years and for good reason, some people grow as people and musicians, meanwhile others grow big egos and drug habits. The only bands that last forever are those which are unusually cordial people, or unusually successful ones who have a huge economic incentive to keep hanging together.