Not that the band I'm in is vastly experienced, but...

I disagree about the dictatorship thing. Certainly someone needs to do some coordination, so that everyone knows when practises are, what we're going to focus on each week, where we're playing etc. But as for how to play stuff (or what to play), that's got to be a majority decision. You've got to face it that your favourite songs are not always the favourites of other people - and vice versa, that songs you don't like may still be good ones to play.

If you find you're *never* in agreement with the other folks in the band, then you're probably in the wrong band. It sounds like this is the case for you.

Graham.