In my case, it's not a band performing for money. It's supposed to be just for fun among friends. I'm the one in the group with the most experience in this kind of music by far. Most of the others have never even played it. These are classical musicians who have not jammed, arranged music, negotiated a melody, improvised harmony, put tunes together into sets, explored subtypes of this kind of music, etc. I think they need me more than I need them. It was probably not a good idea for me to get myself into this. I'm seeing things more clearly now. I'd be happier playing in a group with peers or with people I can both learn from and teach to.