"Clinton you'll forgive me if I'm wrong"
Nothing to forgive Goik.... Everybody is wrong sometimes... especially give how easily things get misunderstood out here in text-only-land..... No blood, no foul eh....

"you sound like someone who cares a lot, and has been hurt a few times"
Find me a human being that doesn't apply to! LOL   Life is NEVER a bed of roses, unless you're also including the thorns.... I suspect that in the grand scheme of things, I've had it WAY better than most people.... (I've never had someone I was supposed to be able to trust try to put anything up inside of me against my will, for instance)

"stop trying to get your retaliation in first"
Not something I've ever done..... granted my level of discourse here is likely more abrupt, direct and guttural than some here might like.... "Oh well", is what I say to them....