The Mudcat Café TM
Thread #17844   Message #176100
Posted By: Amos
10-Feb-00 - 09:22 AM
Thread Name: Help: Caring what others think
Subject: RE: Help: Caring what others think
The sensible answer:

yes, and no, depending on circumstance and definition.
Being needy for admiration is the greatest character flaw ever; it short-circuits careers, undermines courage, compromises awareness and wreaks havoc with conscience.

Caring about other people, taking reasonable care to be an "acceptable" presence among them in order to stay in communication, doing necessary fence-mending and public relations work, is just part of getting along with other members of one's own species.

But those are very different from yearning for attention, being addicted to admiration, or going through life seeking approval because one forgot to bring one's own.

Excerpt from "Psychobabble 101: Truisms from Southern California" by Doc Hizzdik and Makim Crie, Gyamie-Love Publications, Los Angeles, 1967.