Nice try, : GUEST Date: 05 Aug 06 - 04:40 PM, but you obviously haven't read any of Bobert's other posts here. You got the wrong couple, I think.
Bobert, how do you manage to keep your foot in your mouth while your tongue is firmly placed in your cheek? :-)
Guest Bee said:
"Is he reeeally takin' her out some place fun 'every week' or does he just think it ain't been that long?
"Does his (and your) idea of someplace fun include tractor pulls, car races and fishing tournaments?
"Is she, say, fiftyish? In which case he should just hang tight for a year or two."
I think these are the most pertinent questions of this discussion.
What is the P-Vine, I mean your friend's wife's, idea of fun? Have you found that out yet?
Maybe she needs some Evening Primrose Oil to help her through a physiological upheaval, or MAYBE she just needs a break from the daily grind, and I really like the idea of LilyFestre's allocating a day or a chunk of time each week to spend together, and especially of taking turn-about on choosing the places to go or things to do.
Tractor pulls (whatever they may be) would be bearable for me knowing that the next time I get to choose the fun things to do.
One day I was in that sort of "we never do anything fun" mood and suggested to hubby that we go for a drive. We went past a turnoff about 10 kilometres from home, which we have passed more times than we can count, and I said let's go over the bridge and see what's there. It is a set of large, connected islands in the river but I never knew that it had been set up as a wetlands reserve. We drove around, got out and walked, saw some wildlife, and just had a nice time exploring. It's an area which used to house a shanty town in the Depression, and where people used to live in a little semi-isolated community, so there is a lot of history attached to the place too. I'm planning to get a group of people to go there for a picnic one day, when the weather gets a bit warmer.
So, how often do you schedule fun together, and are you stuck in a rut? Or maybe she just wants to have a proper discussion about things, too. Take this seriously. Sometimes it's a request for communication. Communication is something we can take for granted and assume is happening, but maybe it's not happening as well as it could.