GUEST another guest,

"Stop thinking and talking and do something"

You havent read the thread through.

Evryone else,

Everyone can benefit from a new perspective and to have their thoughts and feelings on important matters carefully and honestly scrutinized. I am no exception. It may be that somebody has an idea that nobody else would have considered. That is the advantage of these threads. There are potentially millions of different responses available.

I need a cross section of responses before I can claim to have been rigorous in my attempt to find the best approach.

I was looking for feedback and by this point in the thread I have had so much that is well considered and positive that I feel confident enough not to worry that somebody might see this as an exercise in fishing for pity.

WYSIWYG,

You're right that just about everything that can be said has been said, but it isn't counterproductive for people to add their tuppence if they fancy it.

I am in a different place now to where I was when it started, and for that I am grateful.