Art, my heart goes out to you and your wife I sincerely hope that you and she can find peace.

My choice of the term, mentally ill, is a personal one. I use it BECAUSE it forces those who,like your father-in-law and my father, to face up to unpleasant facts. If someone wishes to use some other term to avoid what they perceive as hurtful, that it their right.

For me, personally, I prefer to call a spade a spade.

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