Some time back I came upon this thought: We never get over the BIG losses, they will always hurt, (as evidenced by brain electrodes) but once we internalize the event we can go on, stronger, more compassionate and more, not less, secure.

That's not necessarily a good thought - who wants to have a faithless person be part of oneself? - but it is essential and in fact, inevitable for most people. The people who do NOT accept the experience and grow bigger because of it are the ones, in my opinion, who become the bitter, cynical people no one wants in their lives.

So, I would say, let yourself feel the pain.