I'm glad this is back.

It's hard to contribute to a thread like this without being personal. In fact, what drew me to it was the relevance to me. If I hadn't had these experences recently, I might have just ignored it, looking for something a bit more upbeat.

In that respect, it is probably realistic to expect a certain amount of partisanism to one side or the other of the issue.

I am extremely blunt when I speak to my ex, for reasons that exist between us. They are not reasons that the mudcat is particularly in need of knowing though, and it is obviously better not to let a brawl develop in a public forum. It serves merely to embarass both parties, and cause more hurt, thus undermining the whole intention, which presumably is to make oneself feel better.

Hence, in his forum, I would rather focus on how I feel and how I deal with that. I am interested to know how other people feel and have felt, and how they deal with it, and that includes people for whom the roles have been reversed.

So far, there has been much that has offered me solace and understanding. You're a good bunch. Don't worry about trolls.