It works both ways. Remember that Robert Earl Keen song where he is described as being "a short-range victim of her sawed-off mouth?"

From a blessing I wrote for my daughter when she was married:

Guide your minds and hearts
To think before speaking,
To love without judgement,
To cherish in all ways,
To respect with honour,
   For in the division of hurts,
   There is no honour.


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