lox, perhaps you don't know much about how medical researchers and scientists come to their conclusions. That's ok.

But so you know, they don't use anecdotal evidence to come to their conclusions.

As to your question "how would I explain...", the answer is, I'm not trying to explain that, you are.

Listen, anger is a symptom of some mental illness, but as far as I know, it is not an addiction to anyone except psychologists trying to peddle it as such in order to drum up more business.

I don't think much of the social sciences when it comes to this sort of thing, and since working for a group of neurosurgeons in a major university teaching hospital, I don't think too much of psychologists, either.

Now, that may piss you off no end because you had already decided you have every reason to believe that "anger addiction" is an actual medical diagnosis, but I'm here to tell you it is not. I've also never heard of an insurance company that pays for addiction treatment for anger, either.

The only "legitimate" treatment (if you could call it legitimate, I wouldn't) I've ever seen is behavior modification therapy which is widely reputed not to be very effective at "curing" the so-called anger addiction.

One example of that is what is known as the Duluth Model for treating men convicted of domestic abuse and assault.