The Mudcat Café TM
Thread #97036   Message #1914184
Posted By: The Shambles
19-Dec-06 - 06:51 PM
Thread Name: BS: Closed threads & deleted posts (2)
Subject: RE: BS: Closed threads & deleted posts (2)
Possibly there will be a reaction- normally that reaction is the offending poster reforms their behaviour. Sometimes they leave the forum. Normaly if the offending poster does NOT reform their behaviour they get banned.

MMario I have read your post with interest and concern.

It seems to me that it is an argument for carrying on treating posters less well than they could be treated - without really explaining what is to be gained by this approach.

It appears to be a rather unfriendly take or leave it approach and one that does not come to mind when I think of our forum. For had it been - it would not have been a place I would have supported for so long.

For this is an approach that would seem to ensure that posters were inhibited from posting to our forum - rather that one designed to encourage posters to feel safe to post.

I have found that when you take a little time and trouble to treat people well - they tend to respond in kind.

And if they do not - by not being seen to stoop to their tactics and attitude - you then have the moral high ground (and for what it is worth) - some justification to then judge their conduct wanting.

From the little personal experiance I have seen of the way our police tend to treat football fans on big match days - when people are judged to be and are treated and herded like livestock - they tend to respond as if they were.

When those who would judge themselves to be nice people are seen to adopt the tactics of those they judge to be the not-nice people - it becomes difficult to tell the difference.

Perhaps by being seen to be doing this - there is a danger that the so-called nice people become the not-nice people?