I used to work for Victim Support and went on training sessions dealing with domestic violence. It is a very complicated situation and there are many reasons why women don't leave an abusive partner after the first attack.

Quite often it is because before the first physical attack they will have been 'kept in line' by the abuser who will have lowered their self esteem in whatever way possible. Many of these women may have come from abusive homes and really have no idea that such behaviour is not normal. Others believe in the sanctity of marriage and that they should do anything to keep the family together. Some just don't know that they have somewhere to go and, maybe in some places, there are no shelters. Trust me, if leaving home means no home and no means of support that can be a very strong inducement for putting up with the abuse.

The last thing that AM needs to hear no is that she is, in some way, to blame for what is happening. The problem is her partners - her need is to take care of her son first and foremost.

A little compassion would go a long way, GUEST 4:38.

Anonymous Member - if you need to talk please PM me. Like the others who have offered I can listen. Take care.